Saturday, 7 June 2014

Why do we hide our book blogs?

I've wanted to write a post about this for a while, and after reading Sophie's excellent post on book bloggers hiding their blogs from people they know in daily life, I thought I should get on with writing it! This is a response to her post - a pretty late response, actually, because this is scheduled.

It's no offline secret that I have a book blog. I've never attempted to hide my blog from people, and to be honest, that never even crossed my mind. But I know that puts me in the minority, and that most bloggers I know are book blogging in secret.

But we spend hours on our blogs. It's March right now (although I suppose this will have to go up in June - it's a scheduled post) and today alone I spent almost 6 hours blogging, not including the time I spent replying to emails. If you needed proof that we book bloggers work hard, there it is. Are we proud of our blogs? I'm proud of mine. There are days where I think it's rubbish and I can't write and my designs look like a five-year-old made them, but deep down I am proud of it, because I put the work and effort into it. We all do.

I know other factors come into it, but I challenge you to tell one person about your blog this week. It might just be a small mention in passing or it might be a full-blown discussion. Because guess what? Your blog is good. Not many people can say they interview authors and speak to publicists on a daily basis, and your blog deserves all the attention it can get. 

What other people think of your blog shouldn't really matter. Who cares if people think it's geeky? What's wrong with being geeky anyway? If they have a problem with it, that says more about them than it does about you, and they wouldn't understand how 100% awesome it is unless they tried it themselves - it's a shame they'll never bother.

We're different, and different is good. Be proud of your blog. :)

Let me know if you decide to accept my challenge!

35 comments:

  1. Hmm for me the reason why I don't really tell others that I have a book blog is because some of my close friends doesn't really like reading (they think it's boring) so the topic of me book blogging doesn't come up. Also, I used to feel kind of shy telling people that I have a blog because I'm afraid they'll think I'm lame, nerdy, etc. but I got past that and now I'm much more comfortable of others knowing my blog compared to how I was 2 years ago when I was starting my blog.

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    1. That's exactly how I was but, like you, I'm past caring what others think haha. Well done on overcoming it. :)

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  2. I've hidden my book blog ever since I created it, simply because I didn't think my family would approve of me posting stuff online and then talking to people I've never met before over the internet. And I reckon that they still wouldn't approve. But they don't understand that this is MY thing, this is something that I feel I'm good at and it lets me talk about books as much as I want, something that is really difficult in my real life.
    I won't tell someone this week about my blog, because I told a family member last week after hiding it from everyone for nearly two years and I was surprised that they were okay with it.
    Great post xx

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    1. It's great that you told someone about it last week, and even better that they were okay with it! Well done ^-^ xx

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  3. Does it count if I already told one person this week..? XD They were a teacher and I'm trying to get my school to go to YALC so I showed them my blog! She has been sworn to complete secrecy though... To be honest, I like telling people about my blog... Just not my friends. Only one friend knows and she found out by accident but I don't mind. I've told various adults who are family friends (well, my parents have!) but I think that if I told people at school they would probably plague my blog and laugh at it. They wouldn't get it. The worst thing is, I know they wouldn't try to understand. In the end, I think I'd stop being myself on my blog because I'd know that they could read it. Secondly, my blog is a personal thing, and I feel as though it has to be only a certain kind of people who can know about it. :)

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    1. Are you going to YALC? And it's a shame you'd stop being yourself :/ We don't want that!

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    2. Don't extctl hide Amber but if some one new i don't telll them starght, aslo a tranie teacher finded my blog but do not knew how (creep).

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  4. Wow, this post is looking right at me! XD I agree, I do hide my blog and yes to the fact that my design isn't as good. But I am proud and this community has given me and anyone else in it a voice and for some, confidence. I might try to put the fact that I have a book blog in a conversation. Not sure, but you have given me the strength to try! :D

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    1. Aww yay, that's exactly what I was trying to do! If you do try, I hope it goes well. Let me know. :)

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  5. I don't usually talk much about the books I read or the blog I own just because it never comes up in conversations. I read YA and most people my age don't, so I don't feel the need to give them any memo regarding this (it is not like I share their hobbies either.. well, most probably).

    But the people that count know about it, they might be my friends on GR, or follow my page on FB, know about some things on my blog. Some recommend me other books and they read some that I loved. I even receive a personalised ReadingAfterMidnight cup for my birthday this year, which was pretty cool and thoughtful.

    And yes, there are even some that roll their eyes at my preference or make silly remarks, but I don't give a damn about that as I don't need their 'permission' and I read whatever make me happy. End of story ;)

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    1. I didn't really consider ages but now I can see how it might be a bit awkward. I like what you said about only having people that count know about your blog, and I'm jealous of your blog cup! :D

      Go Ari! :D

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  6. My family and best friend (who's also a blogger) know about my blog. And I tell new people who I meet now that I review books online. But I never post links to it on my personal Facebook page, to all the people I used to know in school/college. It's quite weird that I'm fine talking about it to people I've just met, but not okay sharing it with people I've know for years. Probably because I know most of them literally wouldn't care anyway.

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    1. I don't post links to it on my personal Facebook either, but that's mainly because I have a 'like' page there which most of my friends have liked anyway.

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  7. I don't go out of my way to hide my blog, but I don't go out of my way to tell people about it either. I suppose maybe I should sometimes but I have only recently started mine and don't feel it is any good yet I need some practise ;)
    I would love some feedback if you have time to check it out? http://bibliophile556.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Welcome to the blogosphere! I actually find your blog hard to read because of the pastel blue against white, so I had to highlight the text to read it. It's really pretty though, and I think you're going to go far - you've already had 169 page views, well done! Good luck :)

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  8. The main reason I hide my blog from people at school is that I don't like to be on display. I have a few anxiety issues and my blog is where I express myself, so I feel like I'll be the centre of attention more. Like other people said, my blog is a personal thing and I want it to be MY thing. It is awesome that you're not ashamed to tell people about your blog, I really wish I had the same confidence as you! GOOO AMBER *waves pom poms*

    I don't think I'll accept your challenge as this is a very difficult thing to me (I mean, my relatives know thanks to my parents and most of my friends know) but I will try to get better at telling people about my blog. I don't know why, I just feel like they will judge me >.< Not because of the geekiness though, I'm a proud nerd ;D ANYWAY. Great post, every book blogger must read this!

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    1. I'm kinda the opposite, I hide behind my blog if that makes sense? Like, if people are talking about my blog and asking about it, they're not asking about ME. Because I don't like personal attention, but if my blog gets attention that's fine. Now I've typed that out it sounds really weird haha >.<

      PROUD NERD <3

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  9. My family don't know that i have a blog because they'd probably think it's a waste of time and wouldn't understand that I blog for ME. I blog because I have no one to talk to about books. I know the first thing they'd ask is "Do you get paid?" -_-
    All four of my best friends know and they are very supportive and constantly tell me how happy for me me they are haha and they occasionally proof read a post when i am too lazy to :)

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    1. I am happy you have your friends to support you. Keep blogging!! :)

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    2. I really want to set up a book blog but I'm not sure how to ask my parents. I think they'll say yes, but should I just go ahead and do it without asking them?

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  10. While I don't necessarily hide my blog, I only really talk about it with non-bloggers when I'm asked what I do. I'm not really the type of person to just offer up what I do, but when asked I see no problem talking about something that I dearly love and am quite proud of doing.

    Really enjoyed your post. Took me a couple days to finally get the chance to commit though. =)

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    1. I'm not really the type of person to just offer up what I do either, but it comes up in conversation quite a lot, like if someone asks 'What are you up to?' 'Just blogging.' And then they ask more about it.

      It's awesome that you have no problem talking about it! Thanks for commenting :)

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  11. I have never hidden my book blog, infact I sing its praises to anyone who will listen. I even post some of my blog entries to my personal Facebook page for my IRL friends to see. When I go out for dinner, or drinks, with friends they sometimes will even ask me if there is anything interesting going on in the book blogosphere.

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    1. That's lovely! It's nice to see someone who's so open about it! :)

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  12. Well let's see no one in my family knows about my book blog. Two of my friends do and a small percentage of the world knows I exist. I will take you up on your challenge. I feel that we tend not to talk about it in the world because we are scared and petrified of being ridiculed. I would be mortified if someone from my school found out because I consider a lot of things and opinions on my blog things I am scared to say aloud. Maybe I am a coward and enjoy hiding on the internet, but I want to be able to at least one soul happy in life and if that is through my blog so be it.

    Amelia @ YA Bookologists (ya-bookologists.blogspot.com)

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  13. This post makes me feel good! I told my Aunt about my blog and she told me to keep it going coz it interests her and she might sponsor me too. :)

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  14. My in real life friends don't know a book blog. They are not used to my bookish side which I hid when we were on highschool. HAHA I mean I bring books and read infront of them once in a while, but mostly I've done all my reading at home and spazz over the internet about bookish feels. My sister knows I own a book blog and she's just "Yeah, sure, do what makes you happy." She rarely ask me about how's my blog so when she does I get so happy. :) Challenge accepted! I think I am going to tell my college friend about my blog! Great great post!

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    1. It's so nice that you have the support of your sister, and good luck telling your friend too! :)

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  15. I tell people about it all the time :) Recently I talked about it with my boyfriend's brother, because he saw a picture on my Facebook where I showed some of the ARC's I received. I'm not ashamed about my blog at all, I'm even proud of all the work I do for my passion! My family also knows I blog, I've even showed them my latest design because I was so happy with it. My friends are also aware of my hobby. I don't hide for the things I love.

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    1. Same here! I used to be secretive about my blog (my family knew, but not my friends) but then I just thought 'Y'know what? I don't care if people think it's weird.' so I started making it public and instantly felt 100% better. :)

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  16. Being geeky is what makes me proud more than anything, so for me there wasn't a single issue with sharing my blog since day one, when I started blogging in the first place, which is something that happened like over 10 years ago.

    Although I don't own a book blog anymore and I moved to different topics, sharing my blog with family and friends is something that makes me just happy. I don't use my real name online because I don't want to get it into work colleagues and stuff, but still. I'm proud of what I do and my blog is something I can really be proud of!

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  17. I guess I'm weird too because basically all my friends and family know about my book blog. Even my coworkers! Though, I will admit that it means that I get a lot of weird looks and snide comments but I made a commitment a few years ago to own that I'm a nerd. I am what I am!

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